aeide-thea replied to your post “hooray iud”

…weirdly i’m realizing i had no active picture of yr pronouns??? but also have def been gender-neutraling u in my head which like, is bad bc an Assumption, but also maybe validating or whatever ime

1. yes validating 2. reasonable assumption since i have made various allusive gendergestures on my blog from which “they/them” is i think the (accurate) picture that one would form

but yes. i tentatively poked at alternative pronoun sets for a bit and accept she/her with ill-fitted equanimity and he/him with bafflement or perhaps charm as well as a certain type of validation, but ultimately they/them has felt quite comfortable pretty much continuously. which is nice. i love to decide on a thing and then be able to comfortably and immediately build a nest out of it.

i genuinely am not having a conscious experience of being in significant pain but i also just noticed that i am, um, straight up whimpering out loud

so maybe i am in a lot of pain but it’s like…. a secret